{"id":240,"date":"2015-03-03T18:27:08","date_gmt":"2015-03-03T11:27:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/jokohama.pro\/?p=240"},"modified":"2015-03-03T18:27:08","modified_gmt":"2015-03-03T11:27:08","slug":"gone-girl-or-the-lesson-about-love-and-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wordpress.thanhdx.com\/?p=240","title":{"rendered":"Gone Girl, hay b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u00e0 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sau khi m\u1edbi xem b\u1ed9 phim n\u00e0y t\u1eeb r\u1ea1p v\u1ec1, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 vi\u1ebft m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i review ng\u1eafn n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 b\u1ed9 phim ph\u1ea3i xem v\u1edbi t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i s\u1eafp c\u01b0\u1edbi. M\u1ed9t v\u00e0i ng\u01b0\u1eddi sau \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 k\u00eau r\u1eb1ng t\u00f4i h\u1ea1i b\u1ea1n, ho\u1eb7c c\u00f3 m\u01b0u \u0111\u1ed3 chia r\u1ebd t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta. Th\u1eadt ra th\u00ec t\u00f4i ch\u1ec9 th\u1ea5y \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t b\u1ed9 phim r\u1ea5t \u00fd ngh\u0129a v\u1eady th\u00f4i.<\/p>\n

V\u00e2ng, b\u1ecf qua l\u1edbp n\u1ed9i dung trinh th\u00e1m \u0111\u1ea7y bi k\u1ecbch, c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng b\u00e0n \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c c\u00e1c nh\u00e2n v\u1eadt \u0111\u00e3 s\u00e1t h\u1ea1i v\u00e0 c\u00f3 \u00e2m m\u01b0u s\u00e1t h\u1ea1i nhau nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o; Gone Girl nh\u1eafc l\u1ea1i cho ch\u00fang ta nh\u1eefng b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc s\u00e2u s\u1eafc v\u1ec1 ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u00e0 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n (m\u1eb7c d\u00f9 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 nghe c\u00f3 v\u1ebb kh\u00f3 tin khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i l\u00e0 t\u00f4i). \u0110\u1ec3 minh h\u1ecda, t\u00f4i xin tr\u00edch d\u1eabn l\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i c\u00e2u tho\u1ea1i trong phim d\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y.<\/p>\n

1. Hai con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i thay \u0111\u1ed5i v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 ho\u00e0n thi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ec3 s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1edbi nhau.<\/h3>\n

Nick teased out of me things I didn’t know existed. A lightness, a humor, an ease. But I made him smarter. Sharper. I inspired him to rise to my level. I forged the man of my dreams.We were happy pretending to be other people.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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I was this average guy from an average place… with mediocre aspirations. And I met a woman who dazzled me. And I wanted her to love me… so I pretended to be better than I was.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

N\u00e0o, th\u1eadt ra c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu ngay t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n th\u00f4i m\u00e0. V\u00ed d\u1ee5: Anh \u1ea5y th\u00edch xem phim, c\u00f2n c\u00f4 \u1ea5y th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng. C\u00f4 \u1ea5y th\u00edch \u0111i ph\u01b0\u1ee3t, c\u00f2n c\u00f4 \u1ea5y th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng. Anh \u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch s\u1ea7u ri\u00eang c\u00f2n c\u00f4 \u1ea5y l\u1ea1i th\u00edch, n\u00ean anh \u1ea5y ph\u1ea3i \u0103n theo.. ho\u1eb7c ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, c\u00f4 \u1ea5y ph\u1ea3i b\u1ecf m\u00f3n s\u1ea7u ri\u00eang \u01b0a th\u00edch c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. V\u00e2n v\u00e2n v\u00e0 v\u00e2n v\u00e2n.<\/p>\n

M\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch v\u00e0 s\u1edf th\u00edch kh\u00e1c nhau. \u0110\u00f4i khi \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 “h\u1ee3p” \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, ta ph\u1ea3i chi\u1ec1u theo h\u1ecd, c\u00f9ng th\u00edch nh\u1eefng g\u00ec h\u1ecd th\u00edch, c\u00f9ng l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng g\u00ec h\u1ecd l\u00e0m. N\u1ebfu hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f9ng y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 nh\u01b0\u1ee3ng b\u1ed9 l\u1eabn nhau, h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i ho\u00e0n h\u1ea3o v\u00e0 v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac. D\u0129 nhi\u00ean, n\u00f3 c\u1ea7n s\u1ef1 n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c r\u1ea5t l\u1edbn, v\u00e0 c\u1ea3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng th\u00edch nghi.<\/p>\n

But Nick got lazy. He became someone I did not agree to marry. He actually expected me to love him unconditionally.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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When we got married, I promised to be that guy. That guy who works harder. That guy who, who lives and acts… and loves with as much passion as she does.
\nBut I failed her. Instead of doing what was right… I did what was easy.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

V\u00e0 n\u1ebfu ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 th\u00edch nghi, ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 nh\u01b0\u1ee3ng b\u1ed9 \u0111\u00f3, c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n s\u1ebd r\u1ea1n n\u1ee9t gi\u1eefa hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi. C\u00e0ng g\u1eb7p nhau nhi\u1ec1u, va ch\u1ea1m s\u1ebd c\u00e0ng nhi\u1ec1u. H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, \u0111\u1ed3ng ngh\u0129a v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c chung s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi nhau 24\/7, s\u1ebd l\u00e0 m\u1ed1c cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng cho th\u1eed th\u00e1ch \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

C\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 t\u00e2m s\u1ef1 v\u1edbi t\u00f4i m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n \u0111em l\u1ea1i cho t\u00f4i c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1. Hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 r\u1ea5t c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng tr\u1edf n\u00ean t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p v\u00ec nhau, nh\u01b0ng h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 c\u1ed1 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u00e3i. H\u1ecd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi v\u00ec ph\u1ea3i g\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh l\u00ean \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1eadt c\u1ea9n tr\u1ecdng, th\u1eadt n\u00e2ng niu, th\u1eadt nh\u00fan nh\u01b0\u1eddng v\u00ec nhau. Cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng th\u00ec s\u1ef1 gi\u1ea3i tho\u00e1t l\u00e0 chia tay. T\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m l\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1eadt, nh\u01b0ng h\u1ecd thi\u1ebfu m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u1edf b\u00ean nhau. C\u00f3 l\u1ebd c\u00e1i \u0111\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 “kh\u00f4ng h\u1ee3p”.<\/p>\n

T\u00f4i ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng, t\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u00ec c\u1ee9 x\u1ea3y ra, v\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u khi chia tay l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ebfn; nh\u01b0ng h\u00e3y th\u00e0nh th\u1eadt v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia v\u00e0 c\u0169ng v\u1edbi ch\u00ednh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi ti\u1ebfn t\u1edbi h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. B\u1edfi, hai con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i thay \u0111\u1ed5i v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 ho\u00e0n thi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ec3 s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1edbi nhau.<\/p>\n

2. S\u1ef1 b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng c\u1ee7a h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n y\u00eau c\u1ea7u hi sinh v\u00e0 tha th\u1ee9.<\/h3>\n

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When two people love each other and can’t make that work… that’s the real tragedy.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

C\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a phim k\u1ec3 v\u1ec1 bi k\u1ecbch x\u1ea3y ra sau khi hai nh\u00e2n v\u1eadt ch\u00ednh \u0111\u00e3 c\u01b0\u1edbi nhau \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c 5 n\u0103m, khi s\u1ef1 “kh\u00f4ng h\u1ee3p” \u0111\u00e3 l\u00ean t\u1edbi \u0111\u1ec9nh \u0111i\u1ec3m, khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 qu\u00e1 m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi v\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia. H\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u0103m s\u00f3c \u0111\u1ea5y l\u00e0 h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ef1 h\u00e0nh h\u1ea1 nhau. Nh\u01b0ng cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng th\u00ec, hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1ea1i tr\u1edf v\u1ec1 b\u00ean nhau v\u00e0 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n d\u00f9 c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u0111au kh\u1ed5, ho\u1eb7c c\u0103m gh\u00e9t n\u00f3, \u0111i ch\u0103ng n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n

H\u00ecnh nh\u01b0 \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng c\u00f3 hai c\u1ee5 gi\u00e0 n\u00f3i nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0y: “We were born in a time when if something was broken we would fix it, not throw it away<\/em>” (Ch\u00fang ta sinh ra v\u00e0o c\u00e1i th\u1eddi m\u00e0 n\u1ebfu c\u00e1i g\u00ec h\u1ecfng th\u00ec ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd c\u1ed1 s\u1eeda ch\u1eefa n\u00f3 ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 v\u1ee9t n\u00f3 \u0111i)<\/em> khi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. V\u1eady \u0111\u1ea5y, chuy\u1ec7n g\u00ec s\u1ebd x\u1ea3y ra khi ta tr\u1edf n\u00ean qu\u00e1 m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng v\u00ec nhau n\u1eefa, khi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u00e3 b\u1ecb r\u00e0ng bu\u1ed9c b\u1edfi l\u1ec5 nghi v\u00e0 v\u0103n h\u00f3a?<\/p>\n

Kh\u00f4ng d\u00e1m l\u1ea1m b\u00e0n l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn n\u00e0o l\u00e0 \u0111\u00fang l\u00e0 sai. Tuy v\u1eady, nh\u00e2n v\u1eadt trong phim \u0111\u00e3 ph\u1ea3i l\u1ea5y hi sinh v\u1ec1 ph\u1ea7n m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 tha th\u1ee9 cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c l\u00e0m v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng, v\u00e0 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u00f4i v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng ho\u00e0n h\u1ea3o trong m\u1eaft ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngo\u00e0i. Th\u1eadt ra \u0111\u00e2y ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c tr\u1ea7m tr\u1ecdng h\u00f3a v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1. T\u1ec9 l\u1ec7 \u0111\u1ec3 cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 tr\u1ee5c tr\u1eb7c nghi\u00eam tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n c\u1ee1 n\u00e0y l\u00e0 r\u1ea5t r\u1ea5t nh\u1ecf th\u00f4i, nh\u01b0ng th\u1ebf m\u1edbi th\u1ea5y c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng chuy\u1ec7n kh\u00f4ng to l\u1eafm th\u00ec ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn l\u1eabn nhau \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, ph\u1ea3i kh\u00f4ng.<\/p>\n

And then all we did was resent each other, and try to control each other. And cause each other pain.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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That’s marriage.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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T\u00f4i v\u1eabn lu\u00f4n mu\u1ed1n ngh\u0129 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n kh\u00f4ng t\u1ec7 v\u1eady \u0111\u00e2u, nh\u1ec9?<\/p>\n

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\"emo-ask\"<\/p>\n

Th\u00fa th\u1eadt \u1edf tr\u00ean \u0111\u1ec1u l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m ngh\u0129 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n c\u1ea3, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 kinh nghi\u1ec7m th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf \u0111\u00e2u n\u00ean n\u1ebfu m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ea5y v\u1edb v\u1ea9n qu\u00e1 th\u00ec b\u1ecf qua cho. V\u00ec t\u00ednh ch\u1ea5t \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t c\u1ee7a b\u1ed9 phim n\u00e0y n\u00ean t\u00f4i lu\u00f4n mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c xem l\u1ea1i n\u00f3 trong m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c h\u1eb9n: t\u00f4i s\u1ebd c\u1ea7m tay c\u00f4 \u1ea5y, quay sang m\u1ec9m c\u01b0\u1eddi, v\u00e0 th\u00ec th\u1ea7m: “This could be us<\/em>” (\u0110\u00e2y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00f3<\/em>). Nghe c\u00f3 v\u1ebb r\u1ea5t \u0111\u00e1ng s\u1ee3 nh\u01b0ng th\u1eadt ra ch\u1ec9 to\u00e0n thi\u1ec7n ch\u00ed m\u00e0 th\u00f4i, \u00e2y da.<\/p>\n

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I’ve killed for you.
\nWho else can say that?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

T\u00f4i r\u1ea5t th\u00edch \u0111o\u1ea1n n\u00e0y. Ph\u1ea3i, th\u00e0nh t\u1ef1u t\u1ed1i cao \u0111\u1ea5y. Ki\u1ec3u nh\u01b0 “Anh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nh\u1ea3y v\u00e0o n\u01b0\u1edbc s\u00f4i l\u1eeda b\u1ecfng v\u00ec em” nh\u01b0ng m\u00e0 m\u1ea5y ai ch\u1ee9ng minh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e2u…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Sau khi m\u1edbi xem b\u1ed9 phim n\u00e0y t\u1eeb r\u1ea1p v\u1ec1, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 vi\u1ebft m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i review ng\u1eafn n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 b\u1ed9 phim ph\u1ea3i xem v\u1edbi t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i s\u1eafp c\u01b0\u1edbi. M\u1ed9t v\u00e0i ng\u01b0\u1eddi sau \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 k\u00eau r\u1eb1ng t\u00f4i h\u1ea1i b\u1ea1n, ho\u1eb7c c\u00f3 m\u01b0u \u0111\u1ed3 chia r\u1ebd t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta. Th\u1eadt ra th\u00ec t\u00f4i ch\u1ec9 th\u1ea5y \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t b\u1ed9 phim r\u1ea5t \u00fd ngh\u0129a v\u1eady th\u00f4i.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":635,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-240","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-movies"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/wordpress.thanhdx.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/240","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/wordpress.thanhdx.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/wordpress.thanhdx.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wordpress.thanhdx.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wordpress.thanhdx.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=240"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/wordpress.thanhdx.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/240\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wordpress.thanhdx.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/635"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/wordpress.thanhdx.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=240"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wordpress.thanhdx.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=240"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wordpress.thanhdx.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=240"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}